BEST WEDDING PLANNING BOOKS! A very proper choice.

Taking the words of wedding experts with a grain of salt is the only way to survive. That said, there are some great wedding planning books out there full of sage advice. This is probably my favorite.

Emily Post’s Etiquette 18th Edition

This classic guide includes not only information on weddings, but on a myriad of social situations.  Useful for the basics while planning the wedding, afterwards this becomes an invaluable resource for drafting thank you notes, how to address letters to local officials, what to wear to religious celebrations…it’s an incredible resource for any couple. The Post grandchildren carry Emily’s flag into the digital era, including email and social media issues. A must have!

What Martha Stewart Doesn’t Want You To Know: Wedding Advice Books Exposed

I brought two wedding books to the store yesterday to add to our growing library. (Yes, My Little Flower Shop, top Palm Springs florist, is building a wedding book library)! Looking at books with our brides gives us a chance to prepare them for the inevitable moment of panic in the ‘Weddings” section at Barnes and Noble.

At any bookstore in America you’ll find glassy-eyed people in the wedding section, not knowing which way to turn. Seriously, it’s worse than the paper towel aisle at the grocery store. (What’s on sale? Is that the cheapo brand?  How may rolls in the pack? Are they Mega-Rolls?)

If you know what to expect, you won’t be discouraged by these experiences of book-overload.   So, knowing that the mountain of information you’ll face,  keep these tips in mind.

  • Wedding planning books are not required reading, and 99.9% of what’s in them probably doesn’t apply to you. (Are you inviting Norwegian royalty to your wedding? Didn’t think so).

    Reading Offbeat Bride

    Reading Offbeat Bride (Photo credit: Aron Meudt)

  •  Once you’ve got the books, (and this is the important part,) they do not need to be  followed obsessively to the letter. They are not written in stone. They were not given to us at Mount Sinai.
  • Books should be considered guidance, opinion and advice. From someone who doesn’t care if you ignore them.
  • How about looking in the library? If you find one you love, buy it. If not you’re not out $35.00 for a book you don’t need.

Bottom line? Talk to the vendors you’re working with! Their advice is the most valuable of all.  In terms of how they do weddings, and work with their clients, well, they wrote the book.

Be well, and love well.

-Dinah

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