My Little Etiquette Shop: Keeping Showers Clean (Great Aunt Estelle can explore body frosting on her own time).

Oh we’ve all been there – the very decorous, ladylike bridal shower with sweet games, and tea sandwiches given with love by an aunt.  And we’ve all been there when the mortified guest of honor opened the one “off-color” gift that makes her turn beet red.  Whether it’s fur lined handcuffs, edible underwear, or the aforementioned (and disgusting-but ever popular) body frosting, our poor bride is stuck in front of an audience, often including her future mother in law, holding some accessory to her intimate life, which certainly until now has not been dinner conversation among the family.

So this is a very simple “My Little Etiquette Shop.”  I’m not even bothering with a question- just putting the advice out there for all shower goers to read and pass along to generations to come.  Leave the hijinks for the bachelorette party.  Really.  You might think it’s funny to shake things up a little at your friend’s afternoon tea. Think about doing it, laugh to yourself, and then go buy some towels off her registry.

Yes, it’s the High Road.  Look for the exits.  Then take one.

Ok, this is in my top 10

photo by Deborah Austin

My Little Etiquette Shop: Shower the people you love with…showers?

And now, another visit with our resident Etiquette Expert.  Got a wedding or social entertaining conundrum? Let her take a crack at it! Send your questions to your favorite Palm Springs event experts at mylittleflowershopps@gmail.com

Q:  Due to having a) a mother-in-law with giant bridge club b) well meaning Aunt c) my actual own-age friends all in the mix, I am being forced to have 3 showers. I would really like my best friend and Maid of Honor to come with me to all of them and provide her classic sense of humor, otherwise I might elope to Mexico with a paper plate full of bows on my head. How do I ask so that she doesn’t feel like she has to buy three gifts?

A:  Not to sound glib dear, but have you tried a version of the question you just asked? You sound very sincere about needing your friend’s support, and I imagine when asked, she would immediately understand that you need back-up at events where the guests are not people you know well, if at all. Trust me when I say that she is fully aware that showers, when they are repeated, are, well, repetitive. Obviously she cares for you if she’s signed on as MOH. Have a little faith – just ask.

While we’ve got your attention, I have a slight bone to pick with you, Miss Bride. You talk as if you are being bodily forced into a wing chair and held down while people (gasp) give you gifts and (horrors) make you eat pastel frosted cupcakes. Complaining about showers falls under the designation of Conduct Unbecoming a Bride. You are being shown extraordinary love. Receive gracefully. Our universal bridal advice: breathe, stand up straight, and enjoy your moment.  Rinse, and repeat.

Teacup Cupcake Toppers for Bridal Shower
Teacup Cupcake Toppers for Bridal Shower (Photo credit: Cupcake Luv)
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