Ancient smoking etiquette – we’ve come a long way, baby.

Love Mad Men? You’ll love this etiquette q & a! It’s amazing to see how things have changed- smoking was so normal there were dos and don’ts! Yikes.

I got my hands recently on an etiquette Q&A compilation from Amy Vanderbilt, columnist and etiquette authority from the 50s-70s.  I will be sharing gems on the blog in the coming months.  Here’s my favorite so far, not wedding related, but too good not to share.

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Amy Vanderbilt’s ad for Lucky Strikes

 Q: Recently, when four of us were dining out- two married couples- one of the husbands left the table for a few minutes. The remaining husband, left with his wife and the wife of the other, lit the cigarette first of his friend’s wife and then of his own.  His wife felt that as her escort, he should have lit her cigarette first. Which is correct?

 A: As one woman was left alone, the husband and wife remaining are, in effect, her host and hostess for the moment.  Therefore it was correct for the remaining husband to light the guest’s cigarette first, then his wife’s.  

There you have it folks, cigarettiquette.

Be well, and love well.  And for goodness sakes.  Don’t smoke!

-Dinah

 

Toxic friends and the wedding

Toxic chemicals are hazardous to your health – and so are toxic friends.  They make everyday life difficult, how do you navigate a special event like a wedding? Let’s look at a few personality types, and strategize.

The Guilt Machine: She makes you feel bad whenever you see her.  You’re not spending enough time listening to her talk about her eternally doomed life.

The Plan:  tell her honestly you have a lot of obligations and need to be around positive energy.  Ask if she can understand your limited availability and see things more “glass half full” or you’ll need to step back for a while.

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Who wants a photo of toxic friends? How about a wedding bouquet instead!

 Envious & Evil:  He “doesn’t like your fiancé,” (= jealous of your committed relationship) so drops references to your wild nights out in Boystown in his presence.

The plan:  Again, honesty (see a theme?) Sit him down and spell it out. That behavior is not cute, and not worthy of a good friend.

Just plain clueless:  She wore an off white dress and a hat with a birdcage veil to your engagement party, and harassed you about all your vendor choices.

The plan: Delegate this one.  There’s probably a no-nonsense mutual friend that can artfully explain the transgressions, get her to apologize and keep her distance until after the wedding.

In the end it’s being honest with the people in our lives who are causing us pain that makes the biggest difference in our quality of life.  Your friend may not fit neatly into one of these descriptions, but nevertheless, get out there, be honest and make your wedding non-toxic!

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Real Wedding: Will & Katy by Katie Day Photography

Lovely wedding – lovely couple – amazing photos!  Enough chatter, here they are.

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