The biggest wedding planning myth: this isn’t hard, folks.

Everybody says it, usually accompanied by an eye roll.  “Wedding planning is so hard!”  And it can see that way, when you avoid thinking outside your own bubble. I heard a tale today that put my problems into sharp focus: i.e. that they are about the size of a grain of rice in the grand scheme of things.  Listen up – let’s all start throwing rice in happiness. Why wait for a ceremony?

So what’s the biggest problem people planning a wedding face? Lack of perspective.  Today I had a conversation with a woman who grew up in rural Greece in the 1940s.  She described growing up after losing both her parents caring for four siblings, without heat, indoor plumbing and so little money they couldn’t afford shoes.  “I hear people complain about their shoes being the wrong color,” she said, “and I shake my head.” Honestly – this was a humbling conversation.  centerpiece by My Little Flower Shop in Palm Springs, CA

I did not dare explain the “problems” of helping people plan weddings. Discussing the fact that I wrote about wedding planning “problems” suddenly sounded incredibly shallow.  Seriously? Bottom line we’re talking about happy people, in love, planning a celebration.  When you’re having an issue, step back and think for a moment about the fact that you’re wearing shoes. And that you’ve been lucky enough to find an individual you want to marry. That’s pretty phenomenal.

Be well and love well.

Dinah

Wedding planning and time management

As kids, time moves like molasses.  Between birthdays was an eternity! When weddings are scheduled far in advance, they seem far away (sometimes literally)– but this is grown up stuff folks- the months will slip through your fingers like sand.

photo by Chris Miller

photo by Chris Miller

The trick is to keep the kid in you alive!  Remember how special it was to anticipate your birthday party, and try to embrace that feeling over the stress of details and family nonsense.  Remember- you’re doing all of this to marry the love of your life!  And it’s going to be amazing.

Be well, and love well.

Dinah

Wedding planning help not required? Think again.

Whenever someone in my family announces they are engaged, I say two things.  “Congratulations! I vote for a destination wedding in Palm Springs!” and “If you need any help, call me.” No one ever calls. Why? The reason is something that trips up many couples planning weddings.

Engaged couples are convinced they don’t need anyone’s input. This wedding thing? They’ve got it down. They’re educated consumers, and no one’s going to pull a fast one on them.  0508Holly_AmirBut the thing is, and I hate to say it, but the wedding industry has made planning a wedding frustratingly complicated. Contracts can be long, and skilled salespeople up-sell things you don’t need.  Simplifying the process is one of the attractions many couples have to planning a destination wedding in Palm Springs. Our vendors know each other, and help create a seamless experience within your budget.

So yes, maybe you know what you want.  But take a moment and think about the people in your life who’ve offered help or advice.  Did you listen, or brush them off? Don’t go this one alone, folks.  The people you trust and listen to will help you get the celebration you want – and beyond.

Be well, and love well.

Dinah