Toxic friends and the wedding

Toxic chemicals are hazardous to your health – and so are toxic friends.  They make everyday life difficult, how do you navigate a special event like a wedding? Let’s look at a few personality types, and strategize.

The Guilt Machine: She makes you feel bad whenever you see her.  You’re not spending enough time listening to her talk about her eternally doomed life.

The Plan:  tell her honestly you have a lot of obligations and need to be around positive energy.  Ask if she can understand your limited availability and see things more “glass half full” or you’ll need to step back for a while.

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Who wants a photo of toxic friends? How about a wedding bouquet instead!

 Envious & Evil:  He “doesn’t like your fiancé,” (= jealous of your committed relationship) so drops references to your wild nights out in Boystown in his presence.

The plan:  Again, honesty (see a theme?) Sit him down and spell it out. That behavior is not cute, and not worthy of a good friend.

Just plain clueless:  She wore an off white dress and a hat with a birdcage veil to your engagement party, and harassed you about all your vendor choices.

The plan: Delegate this one.  There’s probably a no-nonsense mutual friend that can artfully explain the transgressions, get her to apologize and keep her distance until after the wedding.

In the end it’s being honest with the people in our lives who are causing us pain that makes the biggest difference in our quality of life.  Your friend may not fit neatly into one of these descriptions, but nevertheless, get out there, be honest and make your wedding non-toxic!

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The 4th of July Non-Weekend. Bad for Brides? Good for Guests? You decide.

Ah the calendar.  Tomorrow, the 4th of July falls on a WEDNESDAY for the first time in many years.  For those with office jobs whose vacation days are comparable to certain rare truffles in the food world, this is a big deal. There are calculations by which you can take only a few days off, and yet stretch your vacation and/or wedding weekend to five days, all with the aid of a well placed Monday or Friday out of the office.  Thanksgiving is the ultimate centerpiece to the art of stretching PTO: you can take a full seven days and only “spend” three.

But this year (darned Gregorians) Fourth of July isn’t participating.  And some are breathing a sigh of relief.  Hint: it’s not the brides.  People who might have attended weddings this holiday, are attending barbeques.  And parades.  And celebrating Independence Day well, independently.  There are many people who don’t want to have their summer plans set for them by receiving a “save the date” in February and being expected to clear their calendars.

As a bride, it’s hard to see outside the bubble where your wedding is the Most Important Thing In The World, but sometimes people have fun things scheduled at the same time or want to have that option.  And that’s OK. (Well your sister really ought to keep her schedule open, but let the rest of your list plan their own vacations, and lead their own lives. It’s not anybody’s fault, and there shouldn’t be any lasting drama or upset about who had something else going on that day ).

All thoughts running through my head on a summer’s day… enjoy your barbeques tomorrow.  And the weddings that are happening this weekend!  Remember, you can always have sparklers no matter what time of year it is*  And no matter who comes, or what the season, your wedding will light up with joy and memories for everyone.

Live well, and love well.

Dinah

 

* please check the fire regulations in your area and at your venue!

The Real Bollywood McCoy! Nisha and Jiten: A Magical Journey

This is a to-die-for, drop dead gorgeous, over the top Indian wedding straight off the Bollywood Big Screen. Apparently the British royals have nothing on this glamorous pair! Set in Thailand, complete with genuine Bollywood guest stars this visual feast could rival any big budget blockbuster. Enjoy.

Nisha & Jiten – A Magical Journey – Hua Hin, Thailand from MILI GHOSH (http://in-motionstud on Vimeo.