Wedding planning and time management

As kids, time moves like molasses.  Between birthdays was an eternity! When weddings are scheduled far in advance, they seem far away (sometimes literally)– but this is grown up stuff folks- the months will slip through your fingers like sand.

photo by Chris Miller

photo by Chris Miller

The trick is to keep the kid in you alive!  Remember how special it was to anticipate your birthday party, and try to embrace that feeling over the stress of details and family nonsense.  Remember- you’re doing all of this to marry the love of your life!  And it’s going to be amazing.

Be well, and love well.

Dinah

Wedding Video Etiquette: A Poll! Vote Now!

Often overexcited newlyweds are dying, DYING to show friends their wedding video. Meanwhile, many friends squirm. They were there! In real time! So how do you handle being asked to watch someone’s wedding movie? Vote in our poll!

BEST WEDDING PLANNING BOOKS! We cooked up a good one…

Our recommendations for the best wedding books are not traditional. They’re more about keeping you and your partner in crime on the same page. (Page! Get it? hah!) You’ve got to stay in close emotional touch with the person you’re marrying!  Here’s a book to help you do just that.

How To Cook Everything by Mark Bittman is designed to get you into the kitchen – together!  Mark, longtime food writer for the New York Times and Gourmet Magazine explains ingredients, techniques and cooking terms in no-nonsense language.   Time in the kitchen is an ideal way to remember how much you love to be together without worrying about place cards and ceremony details. Pick a dish and create something delicious together.

Be well, and love well.

-Dinah

Wedding Movies We Love! The Sound of Music

The Sound of Music, 1964 Technicolor musical starring a fresh-faced Julie Andrews has such a dramatic movie wedding! In a dark and shadowy abbey, wearing a dress that falls somewhere between nun’s habit and Princess Grace, Fraulein Maria ties the knot. A widowed dad marrying the nanny is a tired plot device nowadays. In this case, it’s the true story.  And such a crazy one, what with singing families, runaway nuns and nazis, it would be hard to make this up.

We urge everyone to revisit this charming tale you may not have seen since childhood. But in case you don’t have that kind of time, don’t skip the wedding scene clip below, because we are living for that veil!!!

PS – if you’re itching to channel the Fraulein, or Liesel, check out this Pinterest board for options.

Wedding planning help not required? Think again.

Whenever someone in my family announces they are engaged, I say two things.  “Congratulations! I vote for a destination wedding in Palm Springs!” and “If you need any help, call me.” No one ever calls. Why? The reason is something that trips up many couples planning weddings.

Engaged couples are convinced they don’t need anyone’s input. This wedding thing? They’ve got it down. They’re educated consumers, and no one’s going to pull a fast one on them.  0508Holly_AmirBut the thing is, and I hate to say it, but the wedding industry has made planning a wedding frustratingly complicated. Contracts can be long, and skilled salespeople up-sell things you don’t need.  Simplifying the process is one of the attractions many couples have to planning a destination wedding in Palm Springs. Our vendors know each other, and help create a seamless experience within your budget.

So yes, maybe you know what you want.  But take a moment and think about the people in your life who’ve offered help or advice.  Did you listen, or brush them off? Don’t go this one alone, folks.  The people you trust and listen to will help you get the celebration you want – and beyond.

Be well, and love well.

Dinah

BEST WEDDING PLANNING BOOKS – #1 more to come!

Sometimes books that help you plan your wedding aren’t about weddings at all- but about relationships. Keeping in emotional touch with your partner during this stressful time is incredibly important.

“Men are from Mars Women are from Venus” sounded like the kind of self help drivel I normally wouldn’t touch, but a trusted friend told me there was some wisdom in there worth checking out. Boy was she right! Learning how men and women have different needs when it comes to lasting love strengthens my husband and my relationship to this day. I highly recommend checking this book out before you get married, to make sure you’re both ready for interplanetary travel.

More book recs to come – sign up for blog updates in the upper right hand corner to get them delivered to you!

Be well and love well.

-Dinah

Real Weddings: Kellie and John

This gorgeous wedding at the Riviera Palm Springs was a day full of so much love it just oozes out of the pictures.  Enjoy these gorgeous pictures, from Chris Miller at Imagine Imagery.

Wedding Extras – Have we gone too far?

A tweet caught my eye today – admiring someone’s “Day After Wedding Shoot.”  Is this a thing? Disturbing, if you ask me.  The wedding industry puts a lot of pressure on couples.  The “musts” have expanded through the years. We’ve hit a point where what’s expected has ballooned- and at a time when people’s ability to finance these more and more extravagant add-ons is more and more tenuous. This last one just put me over the edge a little. What do you think?

Palm Springs Wedding Style!

This Palm Springs wedding was fun, bright and modern.  A private home was a stunning backdrop, and True Photography Weddings captured it brilliantly.  Thanks to them, and Holly and Amir for the gorgeous photos.

Get ready for your Engagement Shoot!

The “engagement shoot” has become a common activity among engaged couples. Many wind up missing the romantic fun that develops as you shoot by being overly focused on posing for posterity. Here are some tips to stay in the moment .THOMAS-65

  • Be less Pinterested: Too much time looking at other people’s photos can stress you out, and create tension as you try and match “looks” at your own shoot.
  • Make it a playdate: When on location, have fun with that goofy romping around for the camera!* This is fun, uninterrupted almost-alone time with your almost spouse. Relish it.
  • Get metaphysical: The morning of your engagement shoot think about the journey that brought you there. A series of events, decisions, and thunderstorms lined up so you could end up in front of a camera with the love of your life. Pretty amazing.

So you’re ready now, to live in this moment.  Think less Naomi Campbell, and more the best person you can be. That’s who that person you’re holding hands with loves.

Be well, and love well.

Dinah

 *If you’re not doing any goofy romping around, get on that. It makes for great photos