Happy New Year! Everybody celebrate!

The Jewish holiday of Rosh Hashanah, celebrating the start of the year 5775 begins tonight at sundown. Whether or not you are Jewish, I vote that you do something celebratory tonight or tomorrow.  Let me tell you why.

My Little Flower Shop wishes everyone a Happy New Year: L'Shanah Tovah!

My Little Flower Shop wishes everyone a Happy New Year: L’Shanah Tovah!

Many cultures have New Year’s traditions and rituals, and most of them are fun and involve tasty food.  In addition to this Jewish celebration, there’s the Persian holiday Nowrooz, all the variants on the Lunar New Year across Asian cultures, and America’s own version with Dick Clark in Times Square.  Why not have everyone celebrate everything?  What better way to foster understanding and cross cultural togetherness?  Plus- New Years times four or five sounds fun doesn’t it?  Who’s in?  Start tomorrow with some apples and honey for a sweet new year.

Be well and love well.

Dinah

The biggest wedding planning myth: this isn’t hard, folks.

Everybody says it, usually accompanied by an eye roll.  “Wedding planning is so hard!”  And it can see that way, when you avoid thinking outside your own bubble. I heard a tale today that put my problems into sharp focus: i.e. that they are about the size of a grain of rice in the grand scheme of things.  Listen up – let’s all start throwing rice in happiness. Why wait for a ceremony?

So what’s the biggest problem people planning a wedding face? Lack of perspective.  Today I had a conversation with a woman who grew up in rural Greece in the 1940s.  She described growing up after losing both her parents caring for four siblings, without heat, indoor plumbing and so little money they couldn’t afford shoes.  “I hear people complain about their shoes being the wrong color,” she said, “and I shake my head.” Honestly – this was a humbling conversation.  centerpiece by My Little Flower Shop in Palm Springs, CA

I did not dare explain the “problems” of helping people plan weddings. Discussing the fact that I wrote about wedding planning “problems” suddenly sounded incredibly shallow.  Seriously? Bottom line we’re talking about happy people, in love, planning a celebration.  When you’re having an issue, step back and think for a moment about the fact that you’re wearing shoes. And that you’ve been lucky enough to find an individual you want to marry. That’s pretty phenomenal.

Be well and love well.

Dinah

Joan Rivers: Celebrity Wedding Planner

When the world looked at Joan Rivers, they saw a pioneering comedienne.  Me too, but I also saw the woman who pushed me into a career in wedding planning.  How could an insult comic I never met set me on the creative path that’s landed me as a wedding planning, etiquette and fashion authority at the top Palm Springs florist? Here’s how.

In 1998, Melissa Rivers, Joan’s daughter, got married.  Joan swung into action as a celebrity wedding planner, seeking out the services of innovative event designer Preston Bailey to create a glittery snow garden inspired by “Dr. Zhivago” with 30,000 white flowers for the wedding at the Plaza Hotel in New York City.

Inspired by Dr. Zhivago, Russian opulence permeated the wedding.

Inspired by Dr. Zhivago, Russian opulence permeated the wedding.

 

The magazine photos live in my brain to this day. When a client says “winter theme” that’s what I see.  That extravagant celebration showed me what was possible, what creativity could imagine and what opportunities were there to be a part of such events.

Thank you Joan, for your inspiration towards stylish entertaining – and being entertaining.

Be well and love well.

Dinah

 A lovely post script: Joan officiated at the wedding of Preston Bailey and his partner Theo Bleckmann on Valentine’s Day in 2013.

Ancient smoking etiquette – we’ve come a long way, baby.

Love Mad Men? You’ll love this etiquette q & a! It’s amazing to see how things have changed- smoking was so normal there were dos and don’ts! Yikes.

I got my hands recently on an etiquette Q&A compilation from Amy Vanderbilt, columnist and etiquette authority from the 50s-70s.  I will be sharing gems on the blog in the coming months.  Here’s my favorite so far, not wedding related, but too good not to share.

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Amy Vanderbilt’s ad for Lucky Strikes

 Q: Recently, when four of us were dining out- two married couples- one of the husbands left the table for a few minutes. The remaining husband, left with his wife and the wife of the other, lit the cigarette first of his friend’s wife and then of his own.  His wife felt that as her escort, he should have lit her cigarette first. Which is correct?

 A: As one woman was left alone, the husband and wife remaining are, in effect, her host and hostess for the moment.  Therefore it was correct for the remaining husband to light the guest’s cigarette first, then his wife’s.  

There you have it folks, cigarettiquette.

Be well, and love well.  And for goodness sakes.  Don’t smoke!

-Dinah

 

Real Weddings: Rod and Jeff part 2- the ceremony

Rod and Jeff’s beautiful ceremony was held at the Palm Springs Art Museum which makes an elegant background for any celebration – but on this day was particularly stunning. Two words: red roses. Coming Next week- their AMAZING reception!

All photos by the incomparable Chris Miller of Imagine Imagery

Real Weddings: Rod and Jeff – Part 1

Rod and Jeff are an amazing couple we had the pleasure of working with to celebrate their wedding weekend in Palm Springs- with several different events.  We’ll start this multi-part blog post with a few shots by Chris Miller of Imagine Imagery of two fabulous pre-parties.  All the events for this wedding were incredible celebrations of these two terrific people, and we were thrilled to be a part of making it all happen.  This was only the beginning! More photos to come- ceremony & reception? Breathtaking.

 

My Little Flower Shop: The blog launcher

People want to start their own blogs. Or at least that’s what they tell me when I say what I do for My Little Flower Shop. Sometimes they even tell me what it’s going to be about, or even the URL they’ve bought. So to all you folks, go for it!  But there’s one thing you’ve got to wrap your head around before you start, and I’m going to share that.

To have a blog means writing. A lot of writing.  I’m strongly encouraging everyone who tells me about their love of meerkats, collecting beer cans or scars from a childhood in community theater to go ahead and write. A blogging expert I refer to often for her wisdom, Amy Lynn Andrews recommends  you write twenty posts before you so much as buy a URL- just to see if you

– have enough to say

-are truly interested in your topic

– really have the stamina to sit down and write in the quantity that it takes!

I’ve prevented myself from about three different failed blogs with that trick.  And you know if you read this blog that I love to write it, but that my posting schedule isn’t flawless. So think before you blog – and if you really want it, start writing!

Be well and write well!

Dinah

Lauren Bacall’s Bouquet Toss

In honor of her passing, TheWeek.com posted this priceless footage of Lauren Bacall and Humphrey Bogart on their wedding weekend – including a classic bouquet toss. Back in the forties, the bouquet toss had yet to devolve into the single-woman shaming exercise that it has often become today (we at My Little Flower Shop are advocates of the bouquet presentation- a very sweet tradition.)

I am guessing that this was all staged for the cameras.  Movie studios had a way of capiatalizing on a good love story, making stars under contract “date” each other, so a re-enactment of these events wouldn’t surprise me.  But, somehow I don’t think a couple that much in love would have allowed cameras at the real events. In noir parlance- I bet you dollars to donuts that kind of dame would have been looking for romance.

RIP Lauren Bacall.

How to keep track of wedding planning meetings

Keeping track of the wedding vendors you meet and options you see is the key to effective wedding planning.  Referring back to your notes from different meetings will be handy, so read on for tips on keeping wedding meeting information organized and accessible while on the go.

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A table setting at a Palm Springs wedding – centerpieces by My Little Flower Shop, photo by True Photography Weddings

1)   Always carry a small notebook and pen.  This is a good rule for life in general –messenger bags have those little tubular holders sewn in for a reason.  Sure there’s “an app for that” but the old fashioned method is the simplest and fastest way to jot down notes when touring a venue or tasting cakes.  Later on your thoughts are easy to find, just flip through.  No scrolling or squinting required.

2)   Use your phone – as a camera!  Before cell phones became essential accessories that run our lives, a camera on a phone was a very fancy feature. It’s still super useful. Capture a table setting, colors that inspire,  or the hours on the window of a store you need to come back to.

3)   Don’t forget to KISS! Definitely kiss your sweetie, but also Keep It Simple Silly! Worrying about elaborate notebooks and apps for tracking information take away from what really is a fun process if you let go a little.  So relax, remember your pen, and plan away!

Tuesday Reviews-Day! App – FlipBoard

Apps have become part of our lives- and part of planning weddings.  One we love for help keeping up with all our other sites and blogs is FlipBoard.  A sort of “magazine” that you create, FlipBoard can be customized to contain the sources of information and entertainment you need and want. They have different categories, or you can choose to get content from a particular source, including your own Twitter and Facebook pages.  Everything comes in one app, in a unique “flippable” format that’s very easy to navigate. Our sources include The Knot, Travel & Leisure magazine (handy for Honeymoon ideas) Martha Stewart Living, a style section FlipBoard puts together for us, our social media pages, and so on.  Check out FlipBoard, and see if the format pulls together disparate sources for you!