Not my kind of holiday

Think of a major national retailer, you probably have zeroed right in on the one I’m talking about. You’ve got great aim, and you’re a straight shooter.

They’ve got a TV ad on right now that’s driving me crazy.  It shows a lovely, fashionably turned-out woman walking through a giant Pinterest board and bringing all her fabulous holiday ideas into being.  But according to their chirpy jingle, she couldn’t possibly do it without this store’s credit card!

That’s a load of bullpuckey.  Your creative ideas do not require any special thing to be brought to life this holiday season – especially not a line of credit.  I’m tired of stores making everyone feel so much pressure about making everything perfect.

Just make it yours!  And that you can do with stuff you’ve already got in your house.  OK, so you may need a new strand of lights or two.  But don’t feel “less than” because you’re not setting up a pre-thanksgiving dinner miniature golf course for goodness sake.

Enjoy a hapy and safe holiday!

-Dinah

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Blogs we love: One Kings Lane Style Blog

At My Little Flower Shop, we look for inspiration everywhere. There are loads of terrific wedding blogs, and we’re glad to be a part of that sphere. But we also reach outside of it for ideas.

One Kings Lane, a flash sale site for high end decor, offers a curated look at the best in home design. They even pick a favorite Pinterest board once a week- and as someone who’s lost entire afternoons deep in the home design boards, some help focusing is a godsend as far as I’m concerned. I definitely recommend checking out the One Kings Lane Style Blog

Visit the One Kings Lane blog for a different kind of wedding inspiration.

Visit the One Kings Lane blog for a different kind of wedding inspiration.

Weddings need to be a “should free” zone

In the world of weddings, as in the rest of life, “should” is a dangerous word. As we head into engagement season, I want to address the concept of “should” as relates to wedding planning. A lot of advertising is aimed at to-be-weds about what they “should” do, wear, or even spend on their celebrations. You’ll be happier if you tune out those voices. Let’s talk about why.

If I had been the photographer, I'd have gotten closer to the beautiful bouquet. Photo by Kelly Mendoza

If I had been the photographer, I’d have gotten closer to the beautiful bouquet. Photo by Kelly Mendoza

Think about what ‘should” actually means. If you should, it means you aren’t. That what you are doing, being, eating, choosing, etc. is ill-considered, misguided and sometimes (depending on how dramatic your mother is) fatal. It could be that you’re not doing it right, or that you’re not doing it at all, but whatever it is, a “should” implies you are wrong and bad.

Even full of confidence and empowered by the fact that this YOUR wedding/life, being told that you aren’t doing something right starts to make you reconsider. “Maybe I should do/be whatever it is that I’m not. Should I have thought of that?” And so it becomes internal. Should means aren’t, and eventually it drills down to doubting who you are.

So skip the “shoulds” people! Tempted in conversation? Try:

  • A good option might be to…
  • You know, I had a friend who…
  • If it were me, I would…

Support your friends – to-be-weds and the general public. If it were me, I’d tell them you love them, too.

Be well, and love well.
-Dinah