I brought two wedding books to the store yesterday to add to our growing library. (Yes, My Little Flower Shop, top Palm Springs florist, is building a wedding book library)! Looking at books with our brides gives us a chance to prepare them for the inevitable moment of panic in the ‘Weddings” section at Barnes and Noble.
At any bookstore in America you’ll find glassy-eyed people in the wedding section, not knowing which way to turn. Seriously, it’s worse than the paper towel aisle at the grocery store. (What’s on sale? Is that the cheapo brand? How may rolls in the pack? Are they Mega-Rolls?)
If you know what to expect, you won’t be discouraged by these experiences of book-overload. So, knowing that the mountain of information you’ll face, keep these tips in mind.
- Wedding planning books are not required reading, and 99.9% of what’s in them probably doesn’t apply to you. (Are you inviting Norwegian royalty to your wedding? Didn’t think so).
- Once you’ve got the books, (and this is the important part,) they do not need to be followed obsessively to the letter. They are not written in stone. They were not given to us at Mount Sinai.
- Books should be considered guidance, opinion and advice. From someone who doesn’t care if you ignore them.
- How about looking in the library? If you find one you love, buy it. If not you’re not out $35.00 for a book you don’t need.
Bottom line? Talk to the vendors you’re working with! Their advice is the most valuable of all. In terms of how they do weddings, and work with their clients, well, they wrote the book.
Be well, and love well.
*Note – If you’re looking for a book, I vote for anything by . She’s lovely and charming and wants nothing more than to help brides, maids and moms. She knows her stuff etiquette-wise, but she lives in the real world. A great place to start, keeping in mind all that is said above!