Everybody’s working for the weekend. Really? Everybody? Brides tend to focus on their weddings all week – and definitely on the weekends. It’s prime time for visiting locations, trying on dresses and tasting cakes. But every so often, over the year or so of planning, it’s important to have a wedding-free weekend. Why? The rewards are many. These types of breaks…
Non wedding-related goofing around. Good for the relationshp!
– Keep your feet on the ground – the world does not revolve around your wedding, and not being Princess Focus-Puller for a few days keeps up your bridezilla antibodies.
– Keep your relationship intact. Remember that guy who gave you the shiny ring? He wants his girlfriend back. Your fiancee self is wrapped up in layers of tulle and fondant. Remind him you are who you are (no Ke$ha karaoke please).
– Keep on keeping on. You’ve got miles to go between now and “I do.” In order to stay sane and focused you have to give yourself a break.
There you have it – 3 ways taking a break from wedding planning does right by you. Now get out there – you worked for this weekend. Make the most of it.
Toddlers and Tiaras on TLC, like many of their shows, can be compared to a train wreck. It’s horrifying, but you can’t look away. The little terrors strutting the T&T stage got us to thinking about a common wedding problem: the Flower Girl Fail. They come in several forms
The Wee One: She’s somebody’s niece, and she’s simply too young. She’s destined to get halfway down the aisle and either scream for mom, or announce over Pachabel’s Canon that she’s made “a wee” in her new tights. Avoid this one by staying with kids 5 and over.
The Ham: Need we explain? She’s a scene stealer – and this is your movie. They’re fine being cute down the aisle, but then they should be whisked away to the back of the ceremony space. Avoid leaving them at the front to pull focus with a little dance or other mischief.
A special moment with the flower girls- they might remember it forever, or might go in one ear and out the other.
The Wallflower: She’s adorable – the picture perfect flower girl – but she’s scared to death and doesn’t really want to do it. The solution? Don’t make her. There’s always an enthusiastic little one somewhere in the mix – there’s no need to put anyone in therapy over some petals.
So there you have it – three Flower Girl Fails and how to avoid them. The most important thing is to remember you’re dealing with a kid, and to be patient. And be sure to tune into the best TLC train wreck…I mean reality show…we’ve seen lately, “My Big Fat Gypsy Wedding.”
What do you say when someone asks you what you do for a living? I’m guessing for 99% of you it’s not, “Oh I’m independently wealthy so I spend the work-week eating bon-bons and planning my wedding.” So that means there are brides in offices, retail establishments, and government jobs all over the country, brimming with news about your latest nuptial truimph or travail. One word of advice:
Shhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.
Guess what? Your co-workers are well aware you’re getting married. So is your boss. In this economy, we do not advise you to to keep reminding them that you’re really distracted by a big non-work project. Surfing wedding websites during office hours is another way of pointing out that your focus is elsewhere for the next year or so. And while that may be true, at least make an effort to show some enthusiasm for your work.
Take heart, little brides! One or two co-workers will want to live vicariously through you, and so inevitably dishing about flowers and dresses will occur. But other than with Bridget in accounting, try to maintain the Separation of Work and Wedding.
Quick! Minimize the window! Here comes your manager!
